“Achieve a work-life balance” well, it is not something that I can easily fulfill,unlike a friend who is, I can say, a guru of this subject.
I just survived a week of hard work, busy schedules, long hours and exhaustion. When I look back to the past week, everything seems like a blur. Maybe I’m just too spent to remember my goals and progress for the week.
Working hard does us good but we also need to take a break, unwind and contemplate. What for are the fruits if our labor if we will not be able to enjoy them?
It seems like work is never done, which is really a good thing because this means that there are also a lot of opportunities to progress.
But working without taking a break makes for a very dull life. “All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy. All play and no work makes Jack a mere toy.” Oh, the things we learn in childhood.
Indeed, what we need in order to have a well-spent life is balance. Achieving and maintaining balance is difficult.
It may be arduous from the start and tradeoffs would be inevitable but all would be worthwhile.
So what must be done to create balance in our lives? I believe it’s a matter of juggling the four key facets of our lives, without allowing any of which to fall. In order of importance, these are:
1. Maintaining spirituality
Take the time to commune yourself with God/Creator regardless of your belief or religion.
Prayer, meditation and connecting to the Divine are important to your overall being.
The best moment to practice your quiet time is during the morning. Doing so would help you start your day with a positive mood that you will carry all throughout the day.
You will have enough placid dispositions to ward off the negativities of the day. You may also opt to do your meditation and reflection before bedtime. In that way, you’ll be able to de-stress and release yourself from the day’s burdens.
You don’t have to spend hours every day on your worship and veneration. Thirty to sixty minutes of your day will already suffice as long as you do it consistently.
2. Time to yourself
Give time to yourself. Take a breath and spend time pampering yourself. Pay attention to your physical and emotional wellness. Engage in meaningful activities and blissful experiences. Exercise daily, eat healthy, get enough sleep, drink lots of water, join a yoga class, read books, climbs mountains, volunteer, or do whatever it is that you are truly passionate about.
Again, it doesn’t have to consume all your time and disrupt your schedule. A quick diversion from your busy schedule is ample enough for your body and mind recuperate.
Note that your relationship with yourself will also affect your relationship with the people around you. You cannot fully give to someone or to a cause when you are empty yourself.
Prioritize your physical and emotional well-being and you will be much happier and be able to give that much more to those you love.
3. Family first
Family is considered as the foundation of the society but ironically, the structure of the foundation itself is weakening.
Nowadays, time together as a family is given less importance. In our hurried society, there is always seems to be tradeoffs between family and work and spending quality time with the former is often subordinated over the latter.
Most people tend to overwork and forget the true reason why they are working so hard on the first. Actually, you can have an excellent and productive career without the expense of sacrificing your time with your family.
Here are some suggestions to help you out.
First off, make it a priority to dine with your family every day. Though it’s kind of impossible to eat together during lunch, make sure that you eat together during breakfast or dinner.
Avoid turning on the tv and using your gadgets while you are eating. Mealtime is a good time to reconnect to every member of the family and you owe them your full attention.
Set a family day or family night where you doing something fun as a family. Have a family vacation. Take the kids to a zoo, visit your farm, have a picnic, learn something together.
It could be anything as long as you are all having fun together. While it is imperative to spend time with family, don’t forget to have a private time with your spouse.
Courtship and dating should not end upon marriage. In fact, dating is important to maintain a healthy relationship with your spouse.
It is a venue for you to reconnect with each other and rekindle the flame that once brought you together.
Have some time alone, without the kids and just enjoy each other’s company.
4. Career…is not the most important thing.
I considered this aspect as the least important relative to the other facets which I previously discussed.
It is just ironic that most people today put this as their first priority in life. I never wish to undermine the importance of work-life balance.
I just want to highlight that it is not everything in this world.
Yes, it is important but it is not the most important thing in life.
Putting work first and forgetting the rest creates a sense of constant duty, drudgery and can gravely affect the other three important aspects.
On the contrary, prioritizing the other three aspects over work will make your time spent working much more productive. If you’re doing great with the previous three aspects, work will just follow.
You will feel less stress and burnout and you will accomplish a lot more.